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A mother has shared her heartbreak after her only son took his life weeks after his eight-year relationship ended and he was made to cancel his Build-To-Order (BTO) flat.
The 29-year-old man and his girlfriend, also 29, had been together since their polytechnic days and were planning to move into their new home between June and August 2026.
But according to his mother, Stomper Madam Tan, everything changed when the relationship ended in late July 2025.
“They were together for eight years,” she said. “The BTO was going to be ready next year.
“We had already prepared $50,000 for renovation and $10,000 for the wedding.
“She made him cancel their BTO before officially breaking up.
“His whole world collapsed.”
She said her son attempted suicide the day after the break-up on July 28 but was rescued in time.
“We tried to distract him with a cruise and a Shanghai trip,” she said. “But he couldn’t get over it. Eventually, he took his life on Sept 6.”
The family, still reeling from the loss, has not told his 92-year-old grandmother what happened.
“Now that he is gone, we have no one to carry our family tree down,” Madam Tan said. “The trauma of finding your loved one like that – it’s something no parent should ever face.”
Her son, who held a Diploma in Mechatronics from Temasek Polytechnic, later pursued aerospace engineering at Nanyang Technological University but left after two years when home-based study during Covid-19 proved difficult.
