Woman, 36, with 7 children shares her story

“I told him, ‘No, I cannot take it.’ I said, ‘I need to go and work.’ So that’s when I started to go out and work in a club to survive,” she says.

She said she spent the next 10 years working in nightlife, bringing her children to school before resting during the day and heading to work from 9pm to about 3am or 4am.

She also recounts having to drink until she vomited on some nights.

Had 2 children with third partner

While working at a nightclub, Pearlyn met her third partner, who was a customer at the establishment.

He was there for a company drinking session but appeared quiet and isolated from his colleagues. She approached him to ask why he was so quiet and later gave him a love bite.

The pair exchanged numbers that night, and he returned to the nightclub the following day.

Three or four months into their relationship, they decided to try for a child. Pearlyn eventually had a son and a daughter with him.

When asked why she wanted to have children with him, she explains: “Because I feel like, I really love you. You know, like ‘I want to have something with you.’”

She also says that she was drawn to him because he accepted her existing children.

However, she describes the man as a “mama’s boy” who would turn to his mother for advice when the couple had disagreements.

She also alleges that the man would hit her son from her second marriage, which was where she drew the line.

“I don’t want my children to grow up like this, so I told myself no, I cannot allow my children to go through this,” she says.

Met fourth partner at pub

Pearlyn later met her fourth partner at a pub.

She says he was an army regular whom she “never expected” to fall in love with.

A week or two after their first meeting, they started texting each other and she felt a strong “telepathy” with him. She even spontaneously booked a flight to Thailand to visit him.

They married in 2022, and had a son and daughter together.

Three months after giving birth to her seventh child, she got pregnant once again — but terminated the pregnancy after seeking medical advice.

Supporting family despite mounting debts

However, supporting a family of six proved challenging.

Pearlyn suggested that her husband leave the military because he was not spending enough time with their children. He eventually did so.

The couple then took on Shopee deliveries daily to make ends meet.

At the time, Pearlyn’s husband was also required to pay around $1,500 in maintenance to his ex-wife each month.

To make matters worse, he lost about $7,000 to someone Pearlyn met through a Facebook advertisement, believing that he was a debt repayment scheme adviser. The person turned out to be a scammer.

He was subsequently declared bankrupt, after accumulating about $70,000 in debt.

Now, Pearlyn works as a private-hire driver for 12 hours a day, and earns around $3,000 a month. Her husband earns $300 to $700 a month through part-time work.

After spending the better part of the past two decades raising her children, Pearlyn hopes to take a break from the routine. She has even urged her children not to rush into having children of their own.

“I told my children, please, don’t so fast give me be Ah Ma and Ah Gong. I said, I take care of you all. Seventeen years, give birth pregnant, give birth pregnant. I want to rest,” Pearlyn adds.

Stomp has reached out to Popping SG to get in touch with Pearlyn.

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