@hopewithholly Before you become exclusive with someone, stop asking only, “Do I like them?” Ask whether they’re actually good for you. These are the 10 C’s I want you paying attention to while dating: 1. Control & Consent 2. Character 3. Capacity 4. Conflict Skills 5. Care 6. Contribution 7. Compatibility 8. Curiosity 9. Connection 10. Chemistry And yes—chemistry is last on purpose. You may notice chemistry first, but that doesn’t mean you should trust it first. Someone can give you butterflies and still be controlling. You can have incredible sex and terrible compatibility. You can feel deeply connected to someone who does not have the emotional capacity to build a healthy relationship with you. Dating is not an audition where you’re waiting to see if they choose you. Dating is collecting data so YOU can decide whether you choose THEM. Safety first. Character next. Capacity matters. Compatibility matters. And chemistry gets a vote—but it should never override the rest. Save this list and use it while you date. 💜 #DatingAdvice #dating #DatingOver40 #DatingOver50 #datingtips
