More than loneliness: Why older men may be more vulnerable to suicide

She said similar approaches could help reduce loneliness by creating opportunities for men to connect in ways they find more comfortable. 

Ms Jennie Wan, director of mental health at Montfort Care, said her organisation has found that activity-based and skills-based programmes such as bike repair, carpentry workshops and social darts resonate more with older men.

“These give older men the chance to learn or apply practical skills, stay active, and share their knowledge and experience with others, including opportunities to mentor younger community members,” said Ms Wan.

“What we noticed is that engagement improves significantly when men feel they’re contributing rather than simply receiving help. It gives them a sense of purpose and camaraderie, which makes them far more likely to keep coming back.”

Beyond community programmes, families also have a role to play. 

Families should recognise that an ageing father or grandfather can feel profoundly lonely even when he is surrounded by people, said Gleneagles’ Dr Lim.

“Reaching him may require patience rather than interrogation, and empathy rather than immediate advice,” he said.

“Take the time to draw him into conversation, understand what he has lost, and help him feel that he remains valued, needed and connected to the family.”

Looking back, Joseph believes seniors need more reasons to stay engaged with life.

“You have to keep yourself busy,” he said. “You have to walk around, mix around friends … you explore, you meet new people.”