As with any practice, consistency in small repetitions reshapes one’s mindset and, over time, ingrains the changed behaviour, Ms Mah said.
“So that even if people make a mistake, they no longer tell themselves, ‘I’m a failure’. Rather, ‘this was a learning lesson for me, this was an experiment that didn’t go so well but I took the good things from it, and I’ll reshape it into a better one next time’.
“We shift the critique from an identity attack into self-leadership.”
The latter involves intentionally guiding one’s thoughts, feelings and actions to achieve goals, rather than relying solely on external direction.
When he was finally able to confront and work with his self-criticism, Mr Tan the leadership coach started The Wholehearted Podcast in 2022 after procrastinating for two years.
