YAHOO POLL: Is it fair for a MIL to claim wedding hong bao cash gifts?

Online forums like Reddit’s WeddingDrama lit up, accusing her of hijacking the wedding. Commenters argued she turned the event into her own showcase, using money to dictate terms. Others pointed out that disputes like this are common when family members bankroll weddings.

Financial contributions often blur the line between generosity and ownership.

Experts say loans or sponsorships can shift family power dynamics, undermining the couple’s independence. In this case, the MIL’s demand highlights how financial support can be weaponised.

The clash underscores the importance of clear communication and boundaries in wedding planning. Couples are increasingly advised to set expectations early, especially around hong bao, to avoid drama.

But we want to know: should hong bao cash gift belong to the couple or the MIL who funded the wedding?

Let us know what you think. Have your say and take our poll.

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