{"id":92638,"date":"2026-10-13T18:32:04","date_gmt":"2026-10-13T10:32:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/?p=92638"},"modified":"2026-10-13T18:32:04","modified_gmt":"2026-10-13T10:32:04","slug":"husband-of-singaporean-lost-in-nepal-floods-seeks-closure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/?p=92638","title":{"rendered":"Husband of Singaporean lost in Nepal floods seeks closure"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"text-primary article-summary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">SINGAPORE \u2013<!-- --> When his wife went missing in the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/asia\/south-asia\/nepal-flash-flood-washes-away-villages-project-sites-near-tibet-border?ref=inline-article\" rel=\"noopener\" class=\"gap-x-04 items-center inline text-primary-60 select-auto\" aria-label=\"link\" target=\"_blank\" data-testid=\"custom-link\"><span class=\"inline font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"typography-test-id\">Nepal floods on Aug 26<\/span><\/a>, he hoped that she would have somehow survived and return safely.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">But Selvaganesh, who wanted to be known only by his first name, says he has since accepted that his spouse, Shalinny Deavy, is gone.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Said the 43-year-old: \u201cThere were many people who contacted me saying they believed she would come back safe. But I know she is gone. She\u2019s not coming back.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Shalinny, a State Courts employee, is one of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/asia\/9-singaporeans-among-517-foreigners-out-of-contact-after-deadly-nepal-tibet-floods?ref=inline-article\" rel=\"noopener\" class=\"gap-x-04 items-center inline text-primary-60 select-auto\" aria-label=\"link\" target=\"_blank\" data-testid=\"custom-link\"><span class=\"inline font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"typography-test-id\">nine Singaporeans still missing after the Nepal floods<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">The 40-year-old was on a pilgrimage there and last spoke with Selvaganesh over the phone at around 9am on Aug 26.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">She told him she was at the Gyirong Port immigration building and was about to cross the border into Tibet.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Nepal flood: CCTV footage shows moment deadly mudslide tears through Nepal-China border crossing\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/phIIKFBhSOA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">A viral video of the building being swallowed up by a raging torrent of water and mud as people tried in vain to run away has been viewed many times.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said: \u201cShe was supposed to call me once she had crossed the border, which would have taken about four to five hours. But she never did.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">The 12-minute call was to be the last for the couple, who have been married for 10 years.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">About two hours after the call, floods and landslides swept through parts of central Nepal and Tibet, killing more than 1,450 people and leaving over 5,000 missing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">That night, Selvaganesh <a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/singapore\/i-dont-know-what-to-tell-our-7-year-old-daughter-husband-of-spore-woman-missing-in-nepal-floods?ref=inline-article\" rel=\"noopener\" class=\"gap-x-04 items-center inline text-primary-60 select-auto\" aria-label=\"link\" target=\"_blank\" data-testid=\"custom-link\"><span class=\"inline font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"typography-test-id\">struggled to tell their seven-year-old daughter<\/span><\/a> about what had happened.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said: \u201cAll I could tell her was that \u2018Amma (mother) is missing\u2019. I didn\u2019t know what else to tell her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">By the next day, he said he knew Shalinny was gone.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">The last recorded location of her phone was at the immigration building.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Any remaining hope evaporated when the authorities confirmed later that day that there was no record of Shalinny crossing the border.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said: \u201cShe was right smack in the middle of ground zero. I knew then that she was definitely not coming back.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"font-primary-headline-md-semibold\" data-testid=\"article-subhead-test-id\">Final rites<\/h2>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">That night, Selvaganesh and his daughter cried together.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said: \u201cFor half an hour, both of us cried our hearts out. We looked through many photos and videos of the fun times we\u2019ve had as a family, and we laughed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said his daughter has been coping well with help from a school counsellor.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said: \u201cI have broken down many times in front of my daughter, but she has been very strong and has been consoling me. She has the qualities of her mother: strong, courageous, devoted and kind. That gives me the strength to carry on.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">But he still needed closure.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">So, on Oct 9, he held the final rites and prayers for Shalinny.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">The private event was attended by family, loved ones and colleagues, including judges from the State Courts.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said: \u201cWith the evidence I had that she was truly gone, I didn\u2019t want to deprive her of the proper rituals her soul deserves.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said Shalinny believed in volunteering and helping the community.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">She was involved in grassroots organisations such as the Punggol 21 Community Club Women\u2019s Executive Committee and the Punggol Shore Racial and Religious Harmony Circle.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">She also shaved her head twice for Hair for Hope to raise funds and awareness for childhood cancer, and has been involved in monthly donations for food and education in India for the past three years.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">During the rites, the family framed a picture of Shalinny they generated with artificial intelligence using her recent photos.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh had initially been sceptical of the technology, after AI images of his wife that did not look like her <a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/singapore\/courts-crime\/tiktok-removes-ai-images-of-sporeans-missing-in-nepal-floods-for-spreading-misinformation?ref=inline-article\" rel=\"noopener\" class=\"gap-x-04 items-center inline text-primary-60 select-auto\" aria-label=\"link\" target=\"_blank\" data-testid=\"custom-link\"><span class=\"inline font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"typography-test-id\">were previously circulated<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">But the framed picture was an accurate depiction, he said.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said: \u201cI wasn\u2019t really expecting anything. But when we saw this particular picture, I cried and my daughter went silent. It was exactly her, white hair and all.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"font-primary-headline-md-semibold\" data-testid=\"article-subhead-test-id\">Unresolved issues<\/h2>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Despite having performed the rites, Selvaganesh said there were several unresolved issues, such as their monthly finances and administrative matters.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Because Shalinny has not yet been legally declared dead, he still has to pay her insurance premiums and her share of their home loan.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said that while the authorities have been helpful, their hands remain tied because they cannot do anything without an official death certificate.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Previously, under Nepalese law, a person had to be missing for 12 years before\u00a0he or she\u00a0could be legally declared dead.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">But on Oct 9, the same day the rites were performed, it was reported that Nepal\u2019s President had <a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/asia\/south-asia\/nepal-cuts-wait-period-to-declare-missing-flood-victims-dead?ref=inline-article\" rel=\"noopener\" class=\"gap-x-04 items-center inline text-primary-60 select-auto\" aria-label=\"link\" target=\"_blank\" data-testid=\"custom-link\"><span class=\"inline font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"typography-test-id\">shortened that waiting period<\/span><\/a> to about 1\u00bd months for declaring missing disaster victims dead, paving the way for death certificates to be issued soon.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">Selvaganesh said he was relieved to hear the news.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text-primary font-tertiary-body-baseline-regular\" data-testid=\"article-paragraph-annotation-test-id\">He said: \u201cI\u2019m hoping to hear from the authorities about this soon so we can properly move on.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<center><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.straitstimes.com\/singapore\/courts-crime\/my-wife-is-gone-i-need-to-be-strong-for-our-daughter-husband-of-sporean-lost-in-nepal-floods\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article At Source <\/a><br \/>\n<center\/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>SINGAPORE \u2013 When his wife went missing in the Nepal floods on Aug 26, he hoped that she would have somehow survived and return safely&#8230;.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":92640,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2611],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-92638","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-buzz-headlines","wpcat-2611-id"],"brizy_media":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92638","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=92638"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/92638\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/92640"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=92638"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=92638"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sgbuzz.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=92638"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}