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For some people, having different values or ambitions can be a dealbreaker in a relationship.<\/p>\n
For one woman in Singapore, it was apparently the university she attended.<\/p>\n
The woman recently took to Reddit to share how her \u201celitist\u201d boyfriend of two years allegedly broke up with her after enrolling in one of Singapore\u2019s \u201cBig 3\u201d universities \u2014 a term commonly used to refer to the National University of Singapore, Nanyang Technological University and Singapore Management University.<\/p>\n
She graduated from polytechnic and is currently studying at a private university.<\/p>\n
While she acknowledged the difference in reputation between their schools, she said she never expected her academic background to \u201cdefine [her] worth in his eyes\u201d.<\/p>\n
The woman admitted she only started taking academics and career planning seriously after poly, but has since worked part-time while studying, completed internships, taken on leadership roles and built up her portfolio.<\/p>\n
\u201cI believe that effort and character growth would matter more than the name on your degree,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n
\u201cI was wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00a0According to the woman, her boyfriend told her during the breakup that had he known she would end up at a private university, he wouldn\u2019t have dated her.<\/p>\n
He also allegedly told her she \u201cwasn\u2019t smart enough\u201d, lacked leadership skills, had low career standards and that he was \u201cembarrassed\u201d by her educational background.<\/p>\n
Most strikingly, she claimed he told her he would have listened to her more during their relationship if she had attended his university.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m still in shock that my opinions apparently carried less weight because of the uni I attend,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n
Her ex also allegedly compared choosing a partner to investing in a stock, asking: \u201cIf you knew this stock had a bad track record, would you still invest in it?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThe implication was that I was a failed investment,\u201d she wrote. \u201cI remember just sitting there wondering how someone I\u2019d spent almost two years loving could reduce me to a certificate.\u201d<\/p>\n
She said this was especially confusing as he had previously told her a degree was \u201cjust a piece of paper\u201d.<\/p>\n
The breakup also came just before university orientation, leading her to believe he wanted \u201ca clean slate before hall life, orientation, meeting new people\u201d.<\/p>\n
Redditors were largely unsympathetic towards her ex, with many calling out what they saw as elitism over his \u201cBig 3\u201d university status.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe\u2019s probably gonna realise he\u2019s just an average Joe in the Big 3,\u201d wrote one.<\/p>\n
Another mocked him for \u201ctreating Big 3 uni as Ivy League\u201d, while others argued that educational pedigree would matter far less once he entered the working world.<\/p>\n
\u201cHonestly, when you go deeper into your career, most recruiters take a 2 sec look at your university and moves on to other stuffs anyway,\u201d read one comment.<\/p>\n
Some, however, questioned whether her educational background was the real reason for the breakup at all.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe found someone else lah. The rest are just convenient excuses,\u201d speculated one.<\/p>\n
Others said she was better off finding out how he felt now rather than later.<\/p>\n
\u201cOn the bright side you just dodged a MASSIVE bullet\u201d wrote one Redditor.<\/p>\n
\u201cBullet?\u201d replied another. \u201cShe dodged an entire freaking missile.\u201d<\/p>\n
Photos: CNA, SMU<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n