A married man says he borrowed about $60,000 from banks and licensed moneylenders to support a masseuse he fell in love with, only to see their affair end months later.<\/p>\n
Speaking to Shin Min Daily News, 43-year-old logistics worker surnamed Deng (transliterated) met the 44-year-old masseuse surnamed Li<\/a> at a massage parlour in Toa Payoh on Dec 27 last year.<\/p>\n Deng said he grew closer to Li after subsequent visits, comparing their relationship to that of siblings.<\/p>\n \u201cShe would often take the initiative to chat with me, ask about my life, and come to me whenever she had problems,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n The relationship progressed and they became a couple in late February this year.<\/p>\n However, Deng said that things changed in March, when he noticed that Li was in low spirits constantly. After some probing, the woman purportedly confided in him about \u201csuffocating\u201d debts she was facing after borrowing money from friends and relatives to renovate a house in China.<\/p>\n Claiming that the creditors were chasing her family members for repayment, Li sought help from Deng, who subsequently transferred money to her and her family.<\/p>\n According to Deng, he remitted $5,017 to Li\u2019s mother through a remittance company and subsequently made several more transfers via Li.<\/p>\n In total, he estimated that the transfers totaled at least $40,000.<\/p>\n He also spent another $20,000 on gifts and expenses, including helping her meet sales targets at work and buying her a new iPhone.<\/p>\n \u201cI usually let my wife manage my salary, so I didn\u2019t have much money on hand,\u201d he told Shin Min.<\/p>\n \u201cI ended up borrowing from banks and licensed moneylenders. I accumulated about $60,000 in debt within six months,\u201d he added.<\/p>\n Deng said he once spent about $600 to block out five hours of the masseuse\u2019s time just so she could rest, following a bout of illness.<\/p>\n \u201cI later brought her to a hotel because I just wanted her to rest and not work so hard,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n Deng also recounted how deeply invested he had become in the relationship.<\/p>\n He claimed that Li had told him she wanted to break up with her boyfriend in China because he treated her poorly.<\/p>\n Deng added that he bought flight tickets and accompanied her to Jieyang, Guangdong<\/a>, where she allegedly ended the relationship. He also met her parents in the neighbouring province of Jiangxi.<\/p>\n \u201cShe told me it was the first time she had brought a partner home to meet her parents,\u201d Deng said.<\/p>\n Deng said the relationship eventually broke down, after which he sought to end it and recover the money he had given Li.<\/p>\n \u201cI didn\u2019t want to pressure her too much so I only asked her to repay $20,000 first,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n He alleged that she initially agreed to return the money but later changed her mind.<\/p>\n Deng requested Li to return him $20,000 first, though his appeals have gone unanswered.<\/p>\n PHOTO: SHIN MIN DAILY NEWS<\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n Deng subsequently tried to contact her at the massage parlours where she had worked, but to no avail. He even discovered that one of the outlets had closed.<\/p>\n \u201cShe previously worked at a massage parlour on Toa Payoh Lorong 4<\/a>, but after Shin Min Daily News exposed the provision of sexual services and the police conducted a raid, she moved to a new job on Ang Mo Kio Avenue 4,\u201d claimed Deng.<\/p>\n \u201cIt looks like she had already left Singapore,\u201d Deng added.<\/p>\n Shin Min\u2019s attempts to contact Li were unsuccessful, although her colleagues confirmed that she had left Singapore and could not be reached.<\/p>\n Deng acknowledged that while he was married, the relationship between him and his partner was \u201cestranged\u201d.<\/p>\n \u201cWe haven\u2019t had a proper conversation in a long time,\u201d he told Shin Min.\u201cAlthough we live under the same roof, we sleep in separate rooms.\u201d<\/p>\n He lamented having \u201cmisplaced his sincere feelings\u201d with Li and hoped to warn others against following in his footsteps.<\/p>\n \u201cI paid a hefty price for this lesson.\u201d<\/p>\n Have something to say? Join in!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Explore more on these topics<\/p>\n<\/div>\n See something interesting? Contribute<\/a> your story to us.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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\u2018A costly lesson\u2019<\/h2>\n
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