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I\u2019m beginning to think I am the Goldilocks of eating. What do I mean?<\/p>\n
More and more, I notice people around me either dining disturbingly fast or at such a glacial pace that their languor becomes everyone else\u2019s annoyance.<\/p>\n
Lately, for example, whenever my partner and I go out for a meal, we find that other couples who arrive later than us still manage to finish, pay and leave while we are still polishing off the main course. Maybe they have a movie to catch, except their dispassionate hurry does make them seem like they are excited about it.<\/p>\n
We never thought we were slow eaters. In fact, I always assumed I had a bad habit of wolfing down food too quickly \u2013 a trait I blame on my teenage years. Busy with school, sports and social activities, compounded with a voracious appetite and metabolism, back then I could gulp down a supersized meal like it was a mere snack.<\/p>\n
Now, I have a better appreciation of food. I enjoy flavours and textures, extract delicate notes from herbs and spices, and try to savour each morsel. Also, I have conversations with dining companions in between bites.<\/p>\n
However, not everybody is as convivial. I can understand individual workers scarfing down their fried noodles and dashing back to the office. But you also get groups who barely say a word to each other, who eat and leave a restaurant like they are bored by the experience.<\/p>\n
A common denominator among such groups is that they all have a phone attached to a hand. Instead of talking, they scroll and type in silence. Their faces are either buried in a bowl or in a screen, with barely a word the entire meal.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n