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For me, I learned to cope the hard way.<\/p>\n
I stayed relentlessly busy, filling my days with back-to-back activities ranging from work, taking up new courses to social gatherings. From the outside, I looked like someone who had moved on. I had not. Being occupied became the only way I knew how to feel like myself, but when nobody was watching, there was a heaviness I could not name. I was scared to stop.<\/p>\n
What I did not yet understand was that my body had been keeping score of everything I had refused to feel. The unprocessed grief did not disappear. It waited patiently and surfaced as anxiety, numbness, frustration and restlessness, even on my best days.<\/p>\n
Grief cannot be wished away, as I found out. It lives in the body and needs to be felt gently and safely with those who understand. That was the support I could not find so in 2021, I started a support group for those grieving like me.<\/p>\n
But I wish for more to be done.<\/p>\n
In February when authorities called for a \u201cmarriage and parenthood reset\u201d, Member of Parliament Valerie Lee proposed more support for couples facing setbacks such as miscarriages. Citing examples from other countries, she suggested measures such as dedicated miscarriage recovery leave, automatic referrals for counselling and clear workplace guidelines on pregnancy loss.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n