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SINGAPORE: One Singaporean woman said she \u201cgot the biggest shock of her life\u201d after her date unexpectedly sent her a bill and asked her to transfer money for their dinner.<\/span><\/p>\n Sharing her story on the r\/sgdatingscene Reddit forum on Friday (Dec 19), the woman said she met the man through a matchmaking event and thought things started off on a reasonable note. On their first date, he made a point of telling her, \u201cIf I ask the girl out, I would pay,\u201d and true enough, he followed through by settling the bill. She added that she had ordered \u201cthe cheapest main on the menu\u201d because she does not eat much in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n Going into the second date, she assumed the same understanding applied.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n On that date, the man ordered \u201cthe most expensive dish on the menu\u201d for both of them to share and even upgraded the meal, which came with extra charges.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n According to her, there was \u201czero consultation\u201d on whether she was okay with the added cost and that he ended up eating \u201cwayyyyy more\u201d than she did.<\/span><\/p>\n Explaining why it never crossed her mind that she would be expected to pay, she laid out several reasons. First, he had already stated that if he asked a woman out, he would pay. Second, she is underweight and \u201cdoesn\u2019t eat much,\u201d adding that even when she orders cai png, she can usually only manage \u201ctao ghey + tofu before I have to stop.\u201d Third, he made unilateral decisions to add items and upgrades that increased the bill without checking with her at all.<\/span><\/p>\n She also pointed out that when the waiter placed the bill on her side of the table, the man \u201cquickly grabbed the bill,\u201d which she took as a clear and deliberate signal that he was settling it.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cSo I didn\u2019t offer to pay,\u201d she wrote bluntly.<\/span><\/p>\n The rest of the date continued as if nothing was wrong. She even showed him a nearby cheesecake shop, intending to buy him a cheesecake as a small gesture, only for him to brush it off by saying he \u201cdidn\u2019t eat cheesecake.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n At that point, she said she was still \u201clooking forward to the 3rd date that weekend,\u201d genuinely thinking everything was fine.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n However, she was wrong. \u201cAfter I reached home, I got the biggest shock of my life; he sent me the bill and asked me to send him money for the dinner.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cI felt it was quite distasteful, but I paid my half and politely expressed that we may not be compatible. Man proceeded to scold me, telling me not to think I\u2019m special and that \u2018taking time to be present is not what makes a relationship work\u2019 and that \u2018he dodged a bullet\u2019 which left me quite bamboozled because I literally rescheduled 2 upcoming events just to meet him, and since when were we in a \u2018relationship\u2019?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Wanting to know if this was normal, she asked other locals in the forum: \u201cLadies, have you met men like this before? Is this common in dating?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Under her post, Redditors were quick to pile on the man, with many criticising his behaviour and calling him a \u201cweirdo,\u201d a \u201cred flag,\u201d and even a \u201closer\u201d for making her pay and then scolding her over it. Several commenters felt his actions were unnecessary and embarrassing, saying she was better off without him.<\/span><\/p>\n One said, \u201cMen like this give men a bad rep in general. Be glad he is out of your hair!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Another chimed in, \u201cSuch a princess. He wants half of everything; can he later also split pregnancy terms? Want a traditional role but can\u2019t even provide traditional male contributions (house, food, $$). You dodged a bullet, miss.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n A third commented, \u201cThe problem isn\u2019t that he asks for the split, I think. The problem is he did it after. If he had been upfront and not been a sour grape after, I\u2019d have defended him. But nah, man, not worth it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n A fourth added, \u201cNo, it\u2019s not just your bad luck; unfortunately, this kind of behaviour happens more often than it should in modern dating. These kinds of cases are real out there, and plenty to begin with. The lashing out after you paid and set a boundary? That\u2019s classic sour grapes; you dodged a bullet.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n In other news, a Singaporean employer has cancelled her domestic helper\u2019s work pass and sent her home after discovering that the helper had secretly borrowed from a loan shark.<\/span><\/p>\n In a post shared on the r\/askSingapore subreddit on Wednesday (Dec 10), the employer recounted that her helper had taken a S$500 loan without informing the family, only to find herself trapped when the amount allegedly ballooned to S$2,000.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n According to the employer, the helper had repaid the principal sum, but the illegal moneylender continued to impose escalating fees and demands that she could no longer afford.<\/span><\/p>\n Read more: <\/span>Employer repatriates maid after loan shark terrorises her family over S$500 debt<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\u201cThat\u2019s classic sour grapes; you dodged a bullet.\u201d<\/h2>\n